SEVENTY THE NEW FIFTY?
I’ve waited 70 years to write this.
That’s right: today I’m officially 70 years old!
I think most of us get nostalgic on our birthday, especially when it heralds another decade. One of my classmates from high school sent out a group message a few months ago stating that this was our big year. Several responses ensued, but my favorite one said, “I didn’t know 70 would be this much fun!” That’s the attitude I like.
I might have caught this attitude from my mom and dad, but I’ve always thought young. My parents always associated with younger people. Just as they did, we have dear and treasured friends who are in our same season of life, and we love and appreciate them. But more often we keep company with younger ones. That’s partly because our contemporaries are doing the same thing. Our sons and their wives are our favorite companions, and their friends become our friends. We’re just thankful we can relate to them and vice versa.
Several years ago I came across an article on aging in a newspaper. At the time, it didn’t occur to me to document the newspaper source, but I did save the article. I remember making a mental note to myself that when I “became of age,” it summarized the attitudes I wanted to have. To begin with, I didn’t want to be a grumpy man who says no to every decision my family makes for my welfare. As an example, if my family thought it was appropriate to hire the services of a care professional at home (from firms like Care For Family), I would not object to the decision out of spite. Secondly, I would not feel burdened by age and try to live my life freely–I would not just sit at home because I would be old; I would go out and visit places (if possible). And lastly, I would not complain about medicines – I would understand that I have gotten older and hence medicines to soothe back pain or joint pain.
Anyway, let us not forget that the above-mentioned mental note was made because I was inspired by the article in the newspaper. So, I’m going to share what was written in the article, the title of which is “Learned Lady Tells How to Grow Old Gracefully.” Here goes.
- When you are young, find out what qualities in old people are admired by the young. Remember them.
- Never praise the good old days. Live in the present.
- Learn early in life how to be well-balanced emotionally, how to control anger. Oldsters who aren’t upset by unpleasant events, who can deal with crisis wisely, are sought out by young people as sources of advice and strength.
- Keep alive intellectually. This means not only reading and other cultural activities but maintaining a lively interest in all things going on around you.
- Maintain strict adherence to principles of personal hygiene. Neat personal appearance and good table manners make oldsters attractive to the younger generation.
- Lay a groundwork early in life. You can’t be a pleasant old man or woman unless you cultivate these qualities long before you grow old. They don’t come naturally with age.
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